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For example, say we ' ve broken someone ' s window because we were angry... We make direct amends by repairing the damage we do... style="font-weight: bold;" class="subtitle">Just because I&#039;m a drug addict!</h2><br... She was telling a drug addict like me is the scum of the earth... In fact I&#039;ve live in shamed and I&#039;ve sinned so much for the past twenty-four years living the unmanageable life as a drug addict.<br... /><br /><br /><br /><div class="tag_list">Technorati Tags: <span class="tags"><a href="http://technorati.com/tag/direct+indirect+amends" rel="tag">direct indirect amends</a>, <a href="http://technorati.com/tag/drug+addicts" rel="tag">drug addicts</a>, <a href="http://technorati.com/tag/fall+and+relapse" rel="tag">fall and relapse</a>, <a href="http://technorati.com/tag/hate+me" rel="tag">hate me</a>, <a href="http://technorati.com/tag/mending+my+ways" rel="tag">mending my ways</a>, <a href="http://technorati.com/tag/scum+of+the+earth" rel="tag">scum of the earth</a>, <a href="http://technorati.com/tag/stigma" rel="tag">stigma</a>, <a href="http://technorati.com/tag/till+the+day+I+die" rel="tag">till the day I die</a>, <a href="http://technorati.com/tag/unmanageable+life" rel="tag">unmanageable life</a></span></div><br /><!-google_ad_section_end-><div... class="feedflare"> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~f/arahman7?a=FJGrHI"><img... border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~f/arahman7?a=Y61gBI"><img... … View Post »

" Good" and" bad" feelings" A lot happens in one day, both negative and positive... If we do not take time to appreciate both, perhaps we will miss something that will help us grow." IP No. 8, Just For Today Most of us seem to unconsciously judge what happens in our lives each day as good or bad, success or failure... Attaching value judgments to our emotional reactions ties us to our old ways of thinking... We can change the way we think about the incidents of everyday life, viewing them as opportunities for growth, not as good or bad... You can also use this tiny url, http: / / tinyurl.com / 66lz5g just in case the one above url was wrapped... If you suspect a friend, colleague or loved - one is addicted, you might be afraid of approaching the person, how can you tell if someone might be addicted?... Confronting someone based purely on a gut instinct could lead to a big mistake and a real mess if you are wrong, but if you care about this person you desperately want to help... Top 5 Warning Signs Here are 5 warning signs that point to addiction: 1... Social withdrawal Addicts will often withdraw from their normal social circles, becoming distant from friends, family and work colleagues... Of course people can become distant for many reasons, work stress, worries, illness, but a sign might be evasiveness when approached about it... Physical Withdrawal symptoms At the outset you might spot that they are tired all the time, jumpy or just not looking healthy... Depending on the dependency, the person could suffer from sleeplessness, anxiety, or even apparent illnesses like nausea and diarrhea... Financial impact The combination of falling behind at work and funding the addiction can cause a great deal of financial weight on top of the physical symptoms... Have they stopped doing activities they used to pay to take part in or attend?... Trouble with the law While not every addict will have a scrape with the law, trying to ease the financial burden through petty crime, and the illegal nature of the addiction or drug source could lead to an increased risk of being arrested... One of my client who can ' t read or don ' t want to accept the warning signs to addiction ends up marrying an addict husband who treated her like football... I share my experience, strength, and hope to all who desire positive change... … View Post »

Friends and amends - keeping it simple" We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to od so would injure them or others." Step Nine In every relationship, we don ' t always handle things the way we would have hoped... We approach the person we have harmed and say," I was wrong." Sometimes we avoid getting to the point, evading an admission of our own part in the affair... There will be times when our friends won ' t accept our amends... Perhaps they need time to process what has happened... If that is the case, we must give them that time... - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Quality Times At LakeTown Resort Last Friday after my beloved wife came back from work, I surprise her like I usually do almost everyday... Usually, my darling would never know what will I be doing or say to surprise her... One day, I could buy her a bunch of pink roses, or maybe a love poem which I stick - on her laptop, perhaps?... When she noticed that I was no where to be seen, I could see her face turned to disappointment... So last Friday, after opening out the door for her and hugging her tight I whispered to her ear;... " Why don ' t we go somewhere nice just the two of us this weekend?... And I also know many of you has been asking me when I gonna post a picture of my darling... Hubby in the Deer ' s park Main Entrance On The Way Up To Bukit Merah Hubby and Beloved Wife Together At Eco - Park Even the Deers Love the Wife, Let Alone Grateful Hubby Memorable Nights At The Floating Chalet If you like to see more pictures of us, please visit us at ArahMan7 on Flickr... I share my experience, strength, and hope to all who desire positive change... … View Post »

Balancing The Scales" A lot of our chief concerns and major difficulties come from our inexperience with living without drugs... Often when we ask an oldtimer what to do, we are amazed at the simplicity of the answer." Basic Text, p... 41-42 Finding balance in recovery is quite a bit like sitting down with a set of scales and a pile of sand... The goal is to have an equal amount of sand on each side of the scales, achieving a balance of weight... We do the same thing in recovery... We sit down with the foundation of our clean time and the Twelve Steps, then attempt to add employment, household responsibilities, friends, sponsees, relationships, meetings, and service in equal weights so that the scales balance... We may find that, because of our over - involvement in service, we have upset our employer or our family... These people are easy to recognize... They ' ll smile in recognition at our dilemma and share how they slowed down, added only a few grains of sand at a time to either side of the scales, and were rewarded with balance in recovery... Just for today: I seek balance in my life... Below are a few pictures that was taken about a month ago at my parent ' s house in Longgeng... Mom you are a shining star though the world doesn ' t know your name... You may not be famous, as your face is known to few... ( Copy and pasted from Mothers Day Poems ) Below is another great news brought to you by The News Room... I share my experience, strength, and hope to all who desire positive change... … View Post »

" >"There is one thing more than anything else that will defeat us in our recovery;... d found a way not only to stop using but to live and enjoy life clean... t necessarily accept every single spiritual idea we heard... d work for us, too... Especially from all my brothers and sisters - in - law... Everyone was home since last Thursday ( Labour Day ) coming home to visit my dear mother - in - law... One of them even challenged me to reveal who was the said lady?... I can only say please, please read the disclaimer I&#039;... ve pasted at the bottom of the post... < / font><br / ><br / >PageRank is a numeric value that represents how important a page is on the web... Google figures that when one page links to another page, it is effectively casting a vote for the other page... The more votes that are cast for a page, the more important the page must be... Also, the importance of the page that is casting the vote determines how important the vote itself is... How important each vote is is taken into account when a page&#039;... t the only factor that Google uses to rank pages, but it is an important one.<br / ><br / ><font style="color: rgb ( 255, 0, 0 );... For instance, they filter out links from known link farms... Some links can cause a site to be penalized by Google... t notice it at first but then my beloved wife came running to me and hugged me playfully... cursor: pointer;... a=V2132978&m=464036&w=400&h=500">< / script><br / ><br / ><br / ><! - - google_ad_section_end - - ><br / >Technorati Tags: <font class="tags"><a href="http: / / technorati.com / tag / another+achievement" rel="tag">another achievement< / a>, <a href="http: / / technorati.com / tag / milestone" rel="tag">milestone< / a>, <a href="http: / / technorati.com / tag / pagerank" rel="tag">pagerank< / a>, <a href="http: / / technorati.com / tag / pr+5" rel="tag">pr 5< / a>, <a href="http: / / technorati.com / tag / indifference+or+intolerance+toward+spiritual+principles" rel="tag">indifference or intolerance toward spiritual principles< / a>< / font><div class="blogger - post - footer">I cannot undo what I have done, I can only live better today... … View Post »

"" Living just for today relieves the burden of the past and the fear of the future... 90-91 In our active addiction, fear of the future and what might happen was a reality for many of us... lost our job?... We played out entire conversations and scenarios before they ever occurred, then charted our course on the basis of" what if.... " By doing this, we set ourselves up for disappointment after disappointment... From listening in meetings, we learn that living in the present, not the world of" what if," is the only way to short - circuit our self - fulfilling prophecies of doom and gloom... We hear in meeting that God won ' t give us more than we can handle in one day... And we know from experience that, if we ask, God will surely care for us... We stay clean through adverse situations by practicing our faith in the care of a Power greater than ourselves... - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - I ' m really sorry that I ' ve been neglecting this blog and to all my recovery friends online and offline... In fact, my life had gone haywire but now, it ' s all over... Once upon a time in a little place called Longgeng, I befriended a young lovely lady... And don ' t forget, she is rich ( a subject she would adamantly disagree and she would have tell you it is her parent, not her who is rich ) and got her own wheel to drive around making all the boys goes" ahhh" whenever she passes by!... Among her friends is a local politician ' s son living in a house as big as The Buckingham Palace with an Olympic size swimming pool... She don ' t want to be the person to mess up my life with my beloved wife... I had my lunch and then I spent the whole afternoon trying to reconcile and asking for her forgiveness... - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Ex - friends, lovers and estranged ladies friend who have been cut out of the author ' s life should refrain from reading this post... If an author uses language or materials that offend you, leave... Contacting the person or their ISP, demanding they remove the content or change their ways is absurd because you are viewing their content of your own free will by visiting their site... * sometimes linked to external sites over which the Commission services have no control and for which the Commission assumes no responsibility;... … View Post »

The process of uncovering our secrets, exposing them, and searching our characters reveals our true nature... As we become acquainted with ourselves, we'll need to make a decision to be just who we are... We may want to take a look at what we present to our fellow addicts and the world and see if it matches up with what we've discovered inside... We may want to take another look at those things which we thought" weren't us." Maybe we've avoided NA activities because we" don't like crowds." Or maybe we have a secret dream of changing careers but have put off taking action because our dream" wasn't really right" for us... Those words kept on ringing inside my head for several days now... Almost of of them are drug related... I tried to answer every questions as honestly as possible, base on what I've gone through... I believe that way I can answer every questions truthfully and not get caught lying... One thing I noticed, almost all of them loved their husbands very much even though they knew about their husband's problems... But believed me, filing a divorce will be on top of their list when they found out the hard way that their husbands loved their drugs more than their wife... That was one thing I really hate, no matter how bad my wife will be ( which I'm sure both of my ex and present beloved wife are not ) I shall never use my hands nor legs on her... I just don't get it, I knew they were some husbands who beats up their wives during the day and at night they have the gall to make love with their wives!... They have strong faith that their husbands can go through recovery and become like a normal person again... Especially when I needed someone to talk to during the early stage in recovery... I would sometimes called them at four o'clock in the morning when I found myself turning and tossing in bed sweating and they've always been there for me... For now I'm turning all my life and my will into God's hand... The love and caring in this Fellowship is something you will never find anywhere else, one addict helping another addict... I have a blog of my own, my own Internet marketing where I taught other how to make money online which I considered a good job, doing what I love to do... In the Third Tradition of the Fellowship it states," The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop using." I have my friends in the program... Technorati's Tags: fellowship, get loaded, hard love, love making, make money online, message of recovery I cannot undo what I have done, I can only live better today... … View Post »

Something Valuable To Share" A simple, honest message of recovery from addiction rings true." Basic Text, p... The sharing has been going on for some time... You shyly introduce yourself, apologetically stammer out a few lines, thank everyone for listening, and sit out the rest of the meeting in embarrassed silence... We've all had times when we've felt that what we had to share wasn't spiritual enough, wasn't entertaining enough, wasn't something enough... The meat of our meetings is identification and experience, something all of us have in abundance... Just for today: I have something valuable to share... - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Talking about sharing, there's one thing that made me sad... I've joined a local forum as a regular member mainly to help my colleague things about Blog*Spot... - ) Click image to enlarge I can still remembered the first time I saw this template... But I guess I got the wrong person because I've yet to receive any reply from him... I should have check about it first, not jumping to conclusion just because the other fellow had the same name!... Yikes, it ' such an embarrassing situation, claiming an unknown person as my friend!... Here is a list of persons and things that has helped me to convert O2 to the present state... Greetings and lots of love from Malaysia... I share my experience, strength, and hope to all who desire positive change... … View Post »

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