I read a post yesterday on a certain blog, which I conveniently forgot, about another blog that author A read. She (A) described the said blog as being filled with entries about how that author (B) feels miserable and lonely because she is in her late 20’s and has no prospect of landing a guy in her life, while all her friends have guys or at least potential ones. It wasn’t just one entry, it was the entire blog — entries after entries filled with how she needs a guy in her life and how incomplete she was without one.

Wake up girl! You don’t need a man in your life to feel complete. Being in a relationship is wonderful, and it’s nice to have someone to share your joys, your tears, and your deepest thoughts, but at the same time, it’s unhealthy to completely depend on the guy alone. Your world and social circle should be a lot more than just “you + him = forever”.  When you fall into the mindset that you are incomplete without a man, you’re not only belittling yourself, you’re also subconsciously lowering your standards, only to find out that your Mr. Right is Mr. Anything-but-right. But because of your mindset, you’d rather settle for less when you deserve so much better.

Being alone on Valentine’s Day and dateless at prom doesn’t mean you are lonely and unloved. I used to have the same problem, thinking that I needed a guy to make my life perfect. But when I did have one, it was like discovering  the missing puzzle piece to my puzzle, only to find out that it didn’t fit. I realized that it’s not about others coming into your life to complete you, but about you already being complete just as you are. Only then do you have the capability to give and love others, instead of asking others to love and give unto you.

So Miss B, get out there and go enjoy life, it’s too short to waste on ranting about your man-less life. Don’t focus on what you don’t have, but focus on the family, friends, and other good things you’ve been blessed with. You’ll find that you’re not so alone and incomplete after all.

Well, not technically, but since moving from ever-after.org? Yes! I wanted to do a lot more with the layout, but it’s been so long since I’ve actually designed + coded one from scratch that I got lazy and took the easy way out. Nonetheless, I’m happy with the result, though there is still much to be done:

• contact Qbee members whom I’ve traded with to notify them of the url change


• resubmit my site to search engines


• … and css galleries


• … and maybe join some listings/cliques while I’m at it


• go through my posts/pages to check for dead links


• update information in pages as necessary


• abuse my new PR, nyahaha!

If you find any errors on this site, please do let me know. Meanwhile, enjoy the spanking new Super Girl!

PS. The feed url is the same, but the subscription should be updated now to the new blog. Thank you Tracy for pointing the error out.

I’m not going to discuss my personal life here, because there’s too much to say, and some things I’d like to keep personal, so I’m just going to talk about my online activity.

2008 was an interesting blogging year for me. I’ve been blogging since 2002/2003, but in the past all my blog entries were about my personal life: what I did, what happened at school, what I bought when I went shopping, etc. But this year I was influenced by blogs like Jem’s and Katy’s and decided to focus more on what the audience would be more interested in, hence more informative articles. I also took up paid posts, and as a result of my work since May 2008, I’ve earned a total of $899.23, which is roughly about $100 a month. Of course, that wasn’t without costs.

As for 2009, I’m going to take good use of winter break to completely renovate my blog and other sites, including new designs which aren’t based off of pre-made templates. I’m also thinking about moving this blog and changing some features, because it has just gotten too bloated and inpersonal for my own taste. As for paid posts, I will continue to work on them (why not? lol) and find more discreet ways to publish them without interfering with the audiences and my PR.

For slapping my pagerank around back and forth when quite frankly, I haven’t been doing anything different. I was still doing my paid posts when Google decided to resurrect me out of PR hell and give me my PR2 back, but now it decides to be festive and slap me back again just in time for the new year!

Well I hope the Google bots pick this up, because their intrusion into every aspect of technology is starting to annoy me. Oh and despite their efforts, their new phone is a hideous sight to behold.

Ranting aside, happy 2009 everyone!

I’m not sure since when, but Christmas just doesn’t feel like Christmas anymore. I remember that as a child, it used to be my favorite holiday. I’d wake up early on Christmas morning to find the trees and houses covered with snow, and all around the malls and in the neighborhoods, you’d see lots of Christmas decorations.

Maybe Canadians had more holiday spirit or something, but in the US, Christmas has been a disappointment every year. No snow to begin with (it’s been 2 years now, I’m crossing my fingers for a white Christmas this year, but I doubt it), and less and less Christmas decoration in general. As a matter of fact, it’s like Christmas has become a taboo.

I was reading an article in the student paper the other day about how certain groups of people are trying to destroy and hide anything that might hint to Christmas, saying that it’s too religious and might make other people feel “uncomfortable”. Handel’s Messiah has been banned from being performed in public schools, people no longer say “Merry Christmas” but “Happy Holidays”, and even churches are frowned upon for displaying the nativity scene outdoors on their own property. As a matter of fact, a local fire department had to take down their Christmas decorations because some busy body complained about it being a disrespect to others.

People think they’re advocating for rights when they go out of their way to destroy the Christmas spirit to the point that even Santa and such are being targeted. They’re worse off than the grinch that stole Christmas.

It’s only Tuesday and I’ve already got a long list of mishaps that have become the stress relievers for my friends during our final week.

Monday afternoon

• Finished my Calculus exam an hour early, decides to double check, finds that I’ve done half the problems wrong, has to redo all of it, and ends up getting out only 30 minutes early.


• While walking out of the exam room, an auditorium, I trip on the stairs in front of the 100+ people still taking the exam to the sound of a guy going “OHHH”. They were amused, I wasn’t.

Monday night

• Dropped the soup pot lid into the soup pot while getting soup at the diner. Had to fish it out. Not pretty.


• Leaving the soup area, I knock over a stack of Styrofoam soup bowls. Ugh.


• Deciding to get a drink, I chose Raspberry Icetea, only to find that it was out. Boo.


• I decide to get root beer instead, pressed the button, and the drink sprayed all over me.


• Then my friend pointed out that particular machine was out of order.


• I go to a WORKING machine to get lemonade, pressed the button. Yay.


• Released the button when my drink was full, but the lemonade kept coming out and got all over the place, including my hand. Ewww.


• I looked at my lemonade and it looked dirty. I threw it away and didn’t get anything to drink.

Tuesday morning

• Went to sleep at 3am and woke up again at 6am to keep studying for damn Japanese literature.


• Finished studying at 7:50am, and my exam was at 8. Had to run out in my pajamas.


• Got outside only to find out that it was raining, and I had no umbrella.


• Walked up the steps to go inside the building, and I tripped again.


• I regained balance only to find that I lost a shoe. Had to hop around with a sock-less foot dangling in the air while trying to find my shoe.


• Found my shoe at the bottom of the steps, had to hop down, put the shoe on.


• Tripped again and almost lost my other shoe.

Fuck my life.

Photo posts are fun, so I’m going to be posting some lovely photos of what I wish my room or even home could look like. Very pink, very princess-like,  totally me.

I’ve been lacking topics to write until I came upon this post, or rather, its comments (in all its glorious childishness and stupidity, which I don’t even want to go into). Somewhere in there, the guy calls the girl a “fat angry feminist”, to which she replies “FYI: I’m a model”.

The thing is, I know that girl (which is another long story I don’t want to go into, or maybe I will, who knows). And if going back to some East Asian country and taking provocative photos of yourself half naked at your second-cousin-once-removed’s makeshift studio qualifies for one being a model, my God, then Myspace must be the new Elite with the countless “models” they have on their site.

Seriously, though I’m signed with an agency and have done some REAL modeling work, I still don’t like to refer to myself as one, because quite frankly, I’m just a little peon in the super competitive industry. The most I’ll say is that I do some modeling work every now and then, and if people want to call me a model, that’s their choice. But at least my head isn’t floating in the air and I know where I am in the food chain.

But her? She has a ModelMayhem account with those suggestive photos I mentioned earlier, and that’s it. It’s like saying that if you’ve shot with a photographer before, you’re somehow a fully fledged model. Not an aspiring model, not an amateur model, but an OH-EM-GEE-I’m-the-next-Heidi-Klum model. Seriously, she needs to wake up and realize that the modeling industry is more than just having a pretty face or a nice body. A lot of girls have that, and a lot of girls can be cam whores and stick their photos all over Myspace or Facebook, but that doesn’t make them a model, and it certainly doesn’t make her one either.

How do you guys define the term “model”?

By the way, do read the joke on the site while you’re at it. It’s quite funny actually and might cure you of the headache should you decide to read the comments there.

Girls, no matter who you are, deep inside, we all have a desire to be loved and cherished - a princess seed. The sooner it blossoms, the more beautiful we become. This is what this 3-day journey is about. It might seem impossible, but on the contrary, becoming beautiful isn’t a gradual process, but a sudden realization caused by some stimulus. If you have a heart set on becoming a princess, plus taking the right steps, and giving yourself a goal instead of hoping for your prince to come “some day”, then you’re well prepared for your journey to princesshood!

Day 1: Visual Stimulation to Discover Your Princess Seed

If you weren’t blessed with the desire to become a princess from birth, then you’ll need some visual stimulation plus precise timing. Look at examples of who you might consider as princesses, and instead of focusing on their material lives, focus and learn from their inner beauty.

6 Keys to Princesshood:

1. Idol: Observe their attitude and their outlooks on life. Admiring their fashion senses can’t hurt either.


2. Fragrance: Use items with fragrance or pleasant scents to them. If they don’t have a scent, put your signature fragrance to good use!


3. Makeup bag: Neat and tidy is the key. Matching it with your purse or handbag is a plus.


4. Skin care: It’s not about hiding your skin under layers of paint, but letting your natural beauty radiate through.


5. Home Living: Going out and having fun is nice, but knowing how to make your place feel like home is what truly matters.


6. Accessories: Pink = Princess. Period.

Day 2: Nurturing Your Princess Seed Through Your Thoughts and Actions

Just because you live in a mansion, use expensive brand name products, have a bunch of rich hotties going after you doesn’t make you a princess. True princesses are nurtured carefully through thoughts and actions.

6 Steps to Princesshood:

1. Manners - Start from how you greet people. Don’t say hi just for the sake of saying it, but say it from the bottom of your heart with a smile like you mean it. It might seem a little deliberate and desperate in the beginning, but after you get used to it, you slowly start to learn to truly care about the people around you. Learn to be considerate of those around you, from your friends to your waiter in a restaurant.


2. Spirit - Hidden underneath what appears to be a fragile princess is a firm heart and spirit. You are responsible, goal-oriented, and determined. Those who are overly dependent, forever waiting for their princes to save them, aren’t true princesses, just spoiled.


3. Leisure - More books, less TV, I’m sure you’ve heard this one before. And by books I don’t mean tabloids and the likes, but quality books and literature. You’d be surprised at how much you can learn through them.


4. Work - Don’t try and act all tough and masculine just because you work in a predominately male industry or because of your high rank. Use your femininity and gentleness to your advantage, but at the same time, work hard and responsibly. For a princess, work is a mean by which we affirm our worth.


5. Tea Time - Spending money to dine at a princess-worthy restaurant isn’t waste, but an investment. You’re building up your appreciating and sensitivity to beauty and gourmet food. True princesses don’t eat a full 8-course at fancy French restaurants for every meal, but they have the passion and heart to experience gourmet food. Discover a new restaurant every month and increase your taste (literally).


6. Fashion - It’s not about brand names, but about knowing how to stand out in a good way. Switch out of your plain styles and add some feminine aspects such as lace, chiffon, and bows in your wardrobe. Colors can also be used to bring our your inner princess.

Day 3: Water Your Princess Seed Using a Rose Regimen

Greek mythologies say that roses are the tears of Aphrodite, goddess of love and beauty. 300 natural elements found in roses have excellent repair, hydrating, and anti-aging properties, giving the skin a beautiful and youthful glow. The rich aroma can stimulate the female hormones, bringing out your inner charms. In the past, princesses bathed in rose baths, and we too can experience the feeling through rose-based skin care products. You can also use rose water or rose oil for similar effects, and while you’re at it, why not add in a massage to help your skin better absorb the products?